Common decency
I guessed I learnt a lesson called empathy today.
Today I received a message from a friend asking me something legal related
I spent some time searching for neccessary info to give him the best answer I can.
But I did advise him to conduct more research on his own before making a decision.
So i was wondering if he actually read my message since it seems quite important.
But then i realised he read my message but never left a response.
I was a bit offended to be honest. And I felt that he only finds me when he has problems.
Last week out of the blue he asked me something IT related. I know nuts about that to be honest.
I admitted i had no idea but i googled and posted what seemed to be the neccessary links anyway.
I know what I was expecting actually. Just a thank you. I thought it was common decency.
I started thinking about relationships between people, and I think I would rate this so called person as an acquaintance.
I watched the latest episode 'You can you up' (qi ba shuo) and I think it suddenly applies to what Im facing now.
The debate topic was regarding whether the act of not causing others trouble is a good moral value.
I thought of what the judges said in the act of not causing others trouble.
Basically it would depend on the relationship you have with the person.
For eg: if you give your seat in the train, that is the line of your relationship with that old lady, common decency between passengers .
But if she suddenly tells you that she lost her job and asked a position from you, you'll be like super awkward and you just have no idea how to reply.
That would be causing others trouble, because what you requested is over and above the relationship you have with that person.
A so called 'friendship' (交情) would be if you return the favour for the help they gave you.
That's the reason why probably i felt annoyed for a bit. I felt he caused me trouble (i could have ignored him straight away) but he did not even have the decency to say thank you.
It raised the feeling of empathy in me when I know that i purposely ignored my junior's message.
Although he was actually causing me 'trouble',and I had every reason to ignore him, i felt bad if i did not reply his message. That's how i felt when my so called 'friend' did not reply me.
So i decided to practice (in my standards) common decency by replying an honest message to my junior.
I realised that from every little incident in your life you can learn so much more about your values.
This was an interesting lesson for me today :)
Today I received a message from a friend asking me something legal related
I spent some time searching for neccessary info to give him the best answer I can.
But I did advise him to conduct more research on his own before making a decision.
So i was wondering if he actually read my message since it seems quite important.
But then i realised he read my message but never left a response.
I was a bit offended to be honest. And I felt that he only finds me when he has problems.
Last week out of the blue he asked me something IT related. I know nuts about that to be honest.
I admitted i had no idea but i googled and posted what seemed to be the neccessary links anyway.
I know what I was expecting actually. Just a thank you. I thought it was common decency.
I started thinking about relationships between people, and I think I would rate this so called person as an acquaintance.
I watched the latest episode 'You can you up' (qi ba shuo) and I think it suddenly applies to what Im facing now.
The debate topic was regarding whether the act of not causing others trouble is a good moral value.
I thought of what the judges said in the act of not causing others trouble.
Basically it would depend on the relationship you have with the person.
For eg: if you give your seat in the train, that is the line of your relationship with that old lady, common decency between passengers .
But if she suddenly tells you that she lost her job and asked a position from you, you'll be like super awkward and you just have no idea how to reply.
That would be causing others trouble, because what you requested is over and above the relationship you have with that person.
A so called 'friendship' (交情) would be if you return the favour for the help they gave you.
That's the reason why probably i felt annoyed for a bit. I felt he caused me trouble (i could have ignored him straight away) but he did not even have the decency to say thank you.
It raised the feeling of empathy in me when I know that i purposely ignored my junior's message.
Although he was actually causing me 'trouble',and I had every reason to ignore him, i felt bad if i did not reply his message. That's how i felt when my so called 'friend' did not reply me.
So i decided to practice (in my standards) common decency by replying an honest message to my junior.
I realised that from every little incident in your life you can learn so much more about your values.
This was an interesting lesson for me today :)
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